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Stevie's Chicken and Waffles was a big success. Turns out the bike ride is probably way quicker as parking was tough but after the dinner we went to a nearby school playground because TJ saw some big slides on the drive by and started shouting a new word "Cool!"
The waffles themselves had Colt .45 in the batter, it gave it a very distinctive malty taste that was like a double buttermilk kick. Different but it really grew on me. And the chicken was better than Roscoe's. It had like an inch of batter coating it. I will have to be VERY careful about not eating there too much
Maybe enough hipsters will come in and make a mile long line to fend me off after bowling.
The waffles themselves had Colt .45 in the batter, it gave it a very distinctive malty taste that was like a double buttermilk kick. Different but it really grew on me. And the chicken was better than Roscoe's. It had like an inch of batter coating it. I will have to be VERY careful about not eating there too much
Maybe enough hipsters will come in and make a mile long line to fend me off after bowling.
So, I was talking to my mother on the phone this weekend, and my nephew barges in on the line, looking to talk to Citrus Jr., who was spending rest of the weekend with Ex-Mrs. Slim Citrus. He then asks me if Citrus Jr. had his cellular phone with him, which he did not... He then asks me if I could give him "Aunt Ex-Mrs. Slim Citrus'" telephone number.
This caught me a little off-guard, as it had never occurred to me to really think about it, but what is the protocol in this situation? Ex-Mrs. Slim Citrus is no longer my wife, but she is obviously still the mother of Citrus Jr. I was always under the impression that the title of aunt/uncle was limited to:
1. A blood sibling to parent.
2. The spouse of #1.
3. Hai Opal!
4. A trusted friend of parent.
5. As it pertains to the title of "uncle," occasionally (at least in the culture I grew up in), single mom's boyfriend.
It never crossed my mind until that moment that my nephews might have reason to refer to my ex-wife as "Aunt." Is that actually appropriate?
This caught me a little off-guard, as it had never occurred to me to really think about it, but what is the protocol in this situation? Ex-Mrs. Slim Citrus is no longer my wife, but she is obviously still the mother of Citrus Jr. I was always under the impression that the title of aunt/uncle was limited to:
1. A blood sibling to parent.
2. The spouse of #1.
3. Hai Opal!
4. A trusted friend of parent.
5. As it pertains to the title of "uncle," occasionally (at least in the culture I grew up in), single mom's boyfriend.
It never crossed my mind until that moment that my nephews might have reason to refer to my ex-wife as "Aunt." Is that actually appropriate?
Apparently that is technically inappopriate:
Oxford English Dictionary's primary definition is "The sister of one's father or mother. Also, an uncle's wife, more strictly called an aunt-in-law".
(I grabbed that from wikipedia)
However I have ex-aunts that I still consider aunts. My wife calls all her friends "Aunty <name>" to our son and it drives me nuts.
Oxford English Dictionary's primary definition is "The sister of one's father or mother. Also, an uncle's wife, more strictly called an aunt-in-law".
(I grabbed that from wikipedia)
However I have ex-aunts that I still consider aunts. My wife calls all her friends "Aunty <name>" to our son and it drives me nuts.
I would say that if they once called her "Aunt Ex-Mrs. Slim Citrus" that I wouldn't be surprised that they still do, depending on age. She's obviously still in their cousin's life, and if he felt comfortable enough to ask for her number to call him, they don't feel awkward about the situation. They'd probably feel awkward if someone told them to stop calling her that.
Does it actually bother you, or were you just surprised to have heard that?
Does it actually bother you, or were you just surprised to have heard that?
I don't know what the geography of your family is like, Supes, but I live, like, three states over from my sister, so it's not like they hang out on the weekends, or anything. I mean, Citrus Jr. and Nephew are close, insofar as it is possible for two pre-adolescents who live seven hundred miles from each other, and only see each other on summer breaks and alternating Christmases to be close.
Nephew doesn't come up my way, and Ex-Mrs. Slim Citrus has no reason to travel down to where my sister and nephew live, since all of her family live about four hundred miles in the opposite direction (ex's family is up north, I'm in the mid-Atlantic, and my family is in the south). When Citrus Jr. and Nephew get to hang out, it's always either at my mom's house, or at my biological father's place in SC and, in both circumstances, it's either me driving Citrus Jr., or him flying unaccompanied.
Nephew doesn't come up my way, and Ex-Mrs. Slim Citrus has no reason to travel down to where my sister and nephew live, since all of her family live about four hundred miles in the opposite direction (ex's family is up north, I'm in the mid-Atlantic, and my family is in the south). When Citrus Jr. and Nephew get to hang out, it's always either at my mom's house, or at my biological father's place in SC and, in both circumstances, it's either me driving Citrus Jr., or him flying unaccompanied.
Just got back from the State Fair.
With carpooling, eating a big meal before hand, bringing water from home, and a free admission I managed to spend less $12!!!!
With carpooling, eating a big meal before hand, bringing water from home, and a free admission I managed to spend less $12!!!!
I did well enough on an interview to score a damn decent job that would allow me to provide for my family adequately once again, but I'm seriously considering turning the offer down. I have been making serious strides in school and I am finally near earning a degree, and with a quick class search I have found that it would be devastating to my long term plans to give up my college daytime schedule, it would set me back for over another year and a half. The night classes are all filled, and I would lose priority enrollment status. It sucks, everyone who's unemployed seems to be enrolling into college, snapping up valuable class space and destroying schedule flexibility. What really ticks me off is that half of them are just there for continued assistance or Financial Aid and they drop out as soon as they get that grant check in the mail or a sig to their social worker. [/rant]
Live on basically 0 income for 6 more months and expand the gaping hole in my employment history for future gain and happiness, or give up the dream to go to work and feel good about being able to provide like I feel I should be?
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Not disgusting. That is a tough decision. I think only you are going to be able to figure that one out. I think it may depend on if you really think you can survive the next six months, if you don't take the job and whether the degree will actually improve your employment chances when you get it.
Life decisions can really suck.
Life decisions can really suck.
Do you want one cookie now, or two cookies tomorrow?
Maybe it isn't that simple, but maybe it is.
I'm in a similar situation, paying for the indiscretion of my youthful spending. There's light at the end of the tunnel, but it's paved with peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. (Unless you happen to like PBJ.)
Maybe it isn't that simple, but maybe it is.
I'm in a similar situation, paying for the indiscretion of my youthful spending. There's light at the end of the tunnel, but it's paved with peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. (Unless you happen to like PBJ.)
I would not want to make that decision. I'm pretty firmly in the camp of a good job being worth more than a degree itself but it is easy to say that when I have had a degree my entire career.
I think ultimately I'd just run the numbers to figure out whether 6 months of pay + another year of that pay is likely to be higher or lower than 12 months of whatever pay you'll make down the road. My hunch is that they'll probably be pretty even and the extra 6 months of no debt would put you way over the top. But you'd also lose valuable family and free time. I know I would like to get a Masters degree and the thought of giving up all my "me" time for school isn't exactly appealing but that's partially because I don't think the degree will result in any kind of pay increase or promotion I'm not capable of getting on my own.
I think ultimately I'd just run the numbers to figure out whether 6 months of pay + another year of that pay is likely to be higher or lower than 12 months of whatever pay you'll make down the road. My hunch is that they'll probably be pretty even and the extra 6 months of no debt would put you way over the top. But you'd also lose valuable family and free time. I know I would like to get a Masters degree and the thought of giving up all my "me" time for school isn't exactly appealing but that's partially because I don't think the degree will result in any kind of pay increase or promotion I'm not capable of getting on my own.
I would say that a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Unless you know with a reasonable degree of certainty that your degree will land you a job as good or better than the one you'd be passing up, it seems like a bit of a risk. You could still earn your degree, but also be in better shape financially in the meantime. I guess the real question is are you willing to add another year to your schooling for the income (and benefits that come with it) that you'd earn in the interim?