Imagine you lived in a tribal society...
Most likely you would have no inclination whatsoever to dress in a different manner than your group. Your clothes would be made of the highest quality possible, from the best sustainable material available in the area, and would be based on the collective knowledge from your tribe's entire existence. Of course you would know this, not necessarily because you were taught it, but because you lived it - your entire way of life would be based around the group and communal living. Perhaps your language would not even contain the notion of "self" or "individual." It would indeed be a rarity for a member of the group to be able to conceive of individualism, and certainly, if they did, they would be promoting a way of life contrary to that of the community, and thus ostracized.
Western civilization is almost certainly considered infinitely more complex (which doesn't mean better!). I suppose that we have a dichotomy of sorts: we live in a culture of almost pathological individualism, void of empathy and compassion except for only the smallest of human units (the "nuclear family"), but we also crave conformity and acceptance - in fact, we condemn decent.
I don't know how much this is realized in our daily lives in America, as most of us freely walk the streets with our minds on our business (our money), but it is extremely evident by reading the comments for this thread: there are those who defend our culture, those who detest it, and those who are so burnt out from hearing the same damn thing over-and-over they don't know what to think (I guess that's me).
I think Mike looks great in a suit, and much more mature. However, it is obvious to me that he should be able to wear whatever he pleases - whenever he pleases. The only purpose of dressing formally is for people to judge you based on appearance - this should be limited to situations of convenience, for lack of any better information for which to judge. Such as in a job interview, employers must make judgements, for practicalities sake, based on things that they cannot gather from their interview. But we have no reason to judge Mike in other any regards other than basketball - hell, The Maloof's were able to make a $110 million judgement on his skills.
WE are the employers of the players on OUR team, not the president or even the owner. WE pay their salaries. The team is public, maybe not in a corporate sense, but the team needs a city to host it, and the people of the city to support it - the franchise is a member of the community of which we all are, and so the players are.
The question is: why are WE still judging Mike?
We are judging ourselves.
Extremely well said. I only wish I were as articulate.
The problem I see with pathological invidualism is that we are losing our humanity and ironically concurrently losing our individuality. In the culture of our society, we follow the norms and social mores without questioning it. I believe that humans are born existential. It’s what makes us different from every other species of our world; distinctive from our commonplace mammalian instincts. However, along our course, which we believe is “predetermined”; this thought of questioning our existence is lost. The very thing that makes us special is thrown out the window. Why should we question anything when we are so wise in the ways of the world? We can build skyscrapers, develop the latest gizmos; send man into space, and destroy entire nations with the press of a button. Yet we, the wise, cannot cure suffering, poverty, famine, overpopulation, racism etc, which are all problems that are at the heart of our society and our world. We become so absorbed by how we
should live; and how were are perceived by others, that we forget to live altogether.
In our adolescence, we as children are like probing machines with tentacles trying to decipher the meaning of everything. We want to touch, taste, smell, and feel everything. We have an insatiable thirst for knowledge. The one recurring question asked (which is primordially existential in nature) is “why?” which is indubitably followed-up with another “why?”: “Why is our world like this?”, “why are we here?” and “what is the meaning of life?’ The world that surrounds us is mysterious and confusing and we need to make sense of it all. Of course it’s much the same for adults, but we would never concede such an absurd proposition.
A child is born free: free to think, free to dream, free to probe, and free to satiate their desires and most of all free live without fear. At such an age, we don’t even grasp such a concept as fear until we are imbued by it through culture. Children are not yet proselytized by societal mores, cultural norms, nationalism or religion; that’s something we can look forward to in “adulthood” and its many privileges. Needless to say, the child’s insatiable thirst is never really quenched; their dreams never fully realized and their existence never really free. From children we are then thrust into “adulthood” what we call “society” and made to believe that this is the “right” and “only” way to live.
And now at the advent of adulthood comes “great responsibility”. We are told to act, to dress, to think, to believe a certain way. We all conform for the “greater good” What is the “greater good?” Has anybody ever seen it? Now we are told not be free thinkers but rather to become believers. Do not question your existence or look for the meaning of life; this has already been answered: Believe in God; do not break rules; Go to school; do not break rules, Go to college; do not break rules. Choose a profession; do not break rules. Get married, have children and teach them exactly the same as you’ve been taught; and above all make sure that they do not break any rules. Obviously it's not that literal, but I hope you get the point. We are succumbed to a routinal process, a self-inflicted process nontheless; thereby creating fear; if we do not follow the rules there will be repercussions.
I'm not saying that we should start living in tribes (although somehting can be leaned from them). I'm certainly not saying we should reject all conventions of society; there is a lot of good that comes from society, or become total anarchists. Unfortunately, i'm not sure what the solution is or if there even is one at this point. But we cannot fix a problem (and some will question whether there is one at all) if we don't see it or try to understand it.