All of which says much more about your own issues than Cousins. At a certain point insiting on suhc arbitrary self help book standard is saying more about your need for control, for Cousins to apologize to you than anything else. And its all irrelevant. All that matters is that Boogie finds his own way. And his own way doesn't have to be yours, mine, or anyone else's. We have HOFs who won multiple title rings wearing tutus and painted hair. The round mound of rebound was fat, engaged in brawls, picked up technical fouls almsot every game, fought with refs, players and anybody else, and made the HOF. Rasheed Wallace was a vile teammate...who went on to become an NBA champion. Zach Randolph is the inside power on one of the league's best teams after beating up teammates, running drug rings and all the rest. This isn't AA. Its just growing up. And everybody does it differently.
Cousins is ornery, a trait I know well. It scares the bejesus out of people because they can't control it or him. And they're right, they can't. He's not going to apologize on your terms, he's certainly not going to submit to a therapist, but that crap doesn't matter in the least so long as he improves on his own. Saying I don't care about signs he's improving on his own until he gives me 100 I will not throw spit balls in schools on the chalkboard is just formalism and confusing the process and the result. The process is irrelevant. It only exists as a guideline to get results. If the results come anyway, then the process does not matter. Its just there to make you feel like you have control over a situation that you do not.