How do you mend a broken heart?

VF21

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I don't really care about all the reasons. All I know is that I'm afraid the 20+ year love affair (one-sided, I'll admit) I've had with the Kings may be coming to a close.

I feel - at times - like a wife caught in an unhappy marriage, sticking it out just for the children. But the children - in this case the players that such a short time ago were like part of my family - are leaving one by one and being replaced by strangers.

I'm tired of being lied to. I'm tired of having the neighbors gossip. I'm really tired of hearing about the infidelities on the news. (Oh, okay - that's stretching it. Grant Napear isn't exactly the news, but you get the idea.)

In 1999, the relationship really started to take off. We had so much fun together. We went places we'd never been before. We broadened our horizons and dared to dream bigger dreams. And, almost too good to believe, some of those dreams came true.

I'm not going to extend the metaphor, but I'm sure you all know what I'm talking about.

I wasn't too impacted by ticket prices because I can't get to games anyway. But I've been impacted by all the rest.

The whole Peja-Vlade-Webber thing was horrible. It nearly broke my heart. Watching Vlade decide to go to the Lakers was a lethal blow, but somehow I survived. Denial isn't just a river in Egypt.

Watching the team struggle when Webber came back was back enough, but seeing the mean, spiteful comments about someone who just wanted to win and was trying his hardest - albeit probably not enough - to accomplish that goal was not easy.

Learning via Voisin's column that Peja wanted a trade was also horrible. And, slowly but surely, I guess my heart was beginning to build scar tissue.

Then came the Christie trade. Seeing him gone was bad enough. Watching Mobley walk a year later for nothing was like rubbing salt in the wound.

Meanwhile, we had the clowns of the city council and the vitriol of the Sacramento Bee to wade through as we had to watch hopes of a new and much needed arena go down the drain.

Feb. 23, 2005 was arguably the worst day of my life as a Kings fan. The trade itself was bad enough. The rationalization just didn't feel right.

Since then, nothing has seemed to go right for the Kings. Bonzi, one of the few bright spots in recent memory, is out for an extended period of time. SAR, who gave a lot of people, had his jaw broken. The bad things just kept on happening.

Today, though, was possibly the last nail in the coffin. I don't know exactly what Grant Napear said on his show today nor do I know if any of it is true.

All I know is that somehow, reading about it, I felt as though someone had died. And, after thinking a moment, I believe it was my heart.

Yes, I am still a Kings fan but it's a hollow feeling right now. And, in all honesty, I don't have a clue on how to fix it.
 
VF21 said:
Today, though, was possibly the last nail in the coffin. I don't know exactly what Grant Napear said on his show today nor do I know if any of it is true.

All I know is that somehow, reading about it, I felt as though someone had died. And, after thinking a moment, I believe it was my heart.

Yes, I am still a Kings fan but it's a hollow feeling right now. And, in all honesty, I don't have a clue on how to fix it.

what did grant say?

and dont give up..just give up on grant :(
 
Wow, I really don't know what to say...

I think we have all taken our lumps over the last couple of years, but I feel some good will come, I mean, it has to right? All we can do is hope. And trust in the Maloofs and all the Kings staff, and players. Thats all we can do.

But I do understand what you mean. I don't look forward to Kings games like I used to. All I can do is hope that changes one day I guess.

As for Grant, I would really like to know what he said. But I rarely believe something unless I hear it straight from the horses mouth.
 
What Grant said was basically the straw that broke the camel's back, at least for me right now...

http://www.kingsfans.com/forums/showthread.php?t=9877

I don't know which hurt more. The idea the whole Webber trade excuses were lies, the idea the Webber trade was done because no one could get along with him any longer (which I still find very hard to believe), or the idea that once again Grant Napear is speaking on behalf of the organization and we're STILL being told something other than the truth.

It used to be fun to be a Kings fan, even when they didn't win. People didn't say horrible mean things about the players. We were a group of fans who banded together. We didn't fight with each other over one player or the other. Now, primarily because of the Sacramento Bee and sports talk show (read Grant Napear, Mike Lamb and some of the other scum who seem determined to make us dislike our home team), it's hard enough to be a fan.

I want to have fun again. I want us - the fans - to have fun again. I want the stupid drama and soap opera scenarios to be over. And most of all, I'd like to believe I wasn't being lied to on a regular basis for no discernable reason OR only told "filtered" versions of the truth.
 
...Women are so emotional.

J/K VF (I hope I don't get banned for a little humor)

First we sing Kumbaya. :p

Then we eat Hagen Dazz. ;)

Then we get to work.

Don't worry, we all feel the same way. It happened so fast. We will find you another love to sweep you off your feet.
 
Wow, VF confessing the glass is half empty. Your chronicle of events is pretty accurate. I see the Sacramento Kings era as one of a longsuffering club getting slowly better over the years, rising to the elite team they were with the players you mention. Expectations grew and the team excelled to the point of true contenders. Fans went along for the ride.

Alas, all good things come to an end. The slide, the fall from elite status, we are seeing in the organization now is something we've not witnessed or experienced as fans. It's hard to take. But as OptimusRhyme said "It will get better, it always does." We need to learn to deal with it.
 
VF21... don't lose hope. Remember the seasons before the Webber deal or Vlade coming to the Kings? Or even the first few years of having those guys? The Kings were a losing team and momentum finally shifted in the Kings' direction... that momentum seems lost right now, however, after the Kings struggle for a while, (hopefully not too long) things will change and they will regain that momentum that made Vlade's Kings so great. There will be players changing places, more dramatic moves, and more losses, but in time after losing for a while, this team will charge back up again and really want to win games. It just takes time. Also, I think the whole arena/are we really staying in Sacramento issue is a damper to the team. The sooner that is resolved or settled, the sooner I see this team coming together. I feel this way because it is one thing to play for an organization (in this case, the Kings/Maloofs) and a whole other thing to play for the pride of the people (in this case, Sacramento). But when you are not sure if the city wants you or if the organization will be playing for another city soon, I would think that sort of motivation is hard to find. The arena deal is also hard for fans to swallow and not think about... it looms like a rain cloud and it needs to be dealt with.
 
First of all - it will get much worse before it gets better and - You know it.

Time heals most of the wounds.

Nobody can take away memmories
 
piksi said:
First of all - it will get much worse before it gets better and - You know it.

Time heals most of the wounds.

Nobody can take away memmories

Disagree it will get much worse - can't get a whole lot worse than the current situation, last place, injuries, lame duck coach, club playing so poorly, player/contract situations. We're likely to be in this muck for some time to come, but things are pretty rotten now. But, ya, time heals most wounds and the memories will always be there.
 
I feel the same way VF and I have had about all I can take from the Bee and KHTK. I only read/listen to them when I am forced to for info about the Kings. The Bee and KHTK both know they are the only Horse in the stable so they can get away with this crap. Were is the competition here?

I had low expectations going into this season and it's still worse then I thought it would be. It feels like we are in a deep hole that we cannot get out of. I don't see the light anytime soon as far as the kings are concerned. Things are going to get worse.
 
Things ARE going to get worse if GP doesn't do any trades this year.... Just imagine if bonzi AND peja walk this offseason.... WOW that would be disastrous...
 
Thanks all, for listening to my rant.

It's NOT about GP doing trades or drafting new players, etc.

My main complaint is the total lack of positive outlook coming from people like Grant Napear and Mike Lamb and the writers on the Bee not named Mark Kreidler, Joe Davidson or Sam Amick.

It's the vitriol, player bashing, and similar stuff that really has me disappointed. I love the TEAM, but the people who are paid big money to report on it seem more excited about finding something bad to report - rumors are fine - than anything else.

I personally believe Grant Napear has gotten just a little too big for his britches, to quote something my grandmother used to say all the time. It seems to be he's becoming more and more enthralled with the sound of his own voice and less and less concerned about what his role is supposed to be.

Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm just too old-fashioned. Maybe it's the style to totally bash players and act as though they were never any good to begin with. It might be the style, but it's certainly not what I want to listen to or read, especially when I know there are biases at work and sometimes hidden agendas we mere mortals are just too stupid to understand.

I love this team. Right now I absolutely HATE the way they're being marketed.
 
Agree with you about Grant, VF21. It's as if he believes he is making himself look smarter and knowledgeable by the constant bashing and vitriol.
 
Grant is just a Jerry Reynolds wannabe. Never forget that. Also, the more outrageous he acts, the more people listen to his show (this works. see Stern, Howard). Further, these media types are all big time pessimists <sp?>. Even when the Kings were winning they were all down on the Kings, but it just rolled off of the fans because we knew better and we, unlike the media, believed. Let's believe again.... this team is not great, but there are a lot of good things happening this year that will help this team be great once again. Stay positive. Get all your King info at www.kingsfans.com and forget about the bloated, talking heads in the media; they all say the same stuff anyway.
 
I wanna hear grant one time... I never have so I wanna feel the experience haha...
 
Grant is getting siller and siller at the moment. He has gotten to stop saying insane stuff bout Grant. VF21, don't let Grant take your fun..........
 
Take what Grant says with a grain of salt. He only went on the Webber thing because a caller challenged him about the trade. This is actually OLD news. Grant has pretty much said the same thing from the get go, just not so blatantly. I listen to the show pretty much every day, and Grant has always hinted that he knows a lot of stuff that goes on behind closed doors that fans don't. He just was more straight forward about the Webber stuff than he had been because he got his feathers ruffled. There seems to be exagerration involved also, because he felt he needed to validate his point (and defend the orginization etc etc). When Grant gets hot headed, he will tend to sat stuff that he will become contradictions. He's been called on it before, and his patented answer is always "I don't recall ever saying that, but if I did then I'll take responsibility for it."

It's hard for all Kings fans right now, because now we have HINDSIGHT, which we didn't when past things went down. Having said that, there's a lot of frustration for everyone about what is going on with this team. We all want answers and we all want this mess fixed, but the reality is that this team is in transition, and we as fans either got to suck it up or bail. It's not getting better any time soon. This team is not very good and this season isn't going anywhere. That's just the way it is. Even Kreidler said just to take the wins and not let the losses kill ya.

The team was in the cellar for years (truely bad). Then they were on the cusp of a champoinship run (and we all loved the players and their comradere). But times change, players get old, unpopular moves are made...and here we are.

I will always watch this team, but yeah, it doesn't feel the same (because a team is really about the players). Say what you want about bleeding purple, but when it comes down to it, Sac fans fell in love with the players the Kings had, just happened to be lucky that they we OUR team. The love affair is kinda over and the reality is that we longer have all of these loveable pieces any longer together, so now it really is just about supporting the team. even if it is a pain in the arse.

Things could turn around by next year. Not that we'll be an elite team by any means, but competitive and start to establish a different identity. An identity that we can start to appreciate and a whole new era might begin. An era that hopefully will get us all excited about being Kings fans again. :)
 
hoops4kings said:
... Things could turn around by next year. Not that we'll be an elite team by any means, but competitive and start to establish a different identity. An identity that we can start to appreciate and a whole new era might begin. An era that hopefully will get us all excited about being Kings fans again. :)

Nice post.
 
Bballkingsrock said:
VF21, don't let Grant take your fun..........

That's the bottom line. I can continue to love this team and wait for it to get better, or I can let someone like Grant Napear into my head, ruining everything.

Sorry, Grant. You've been evicted.

GO KINGS!!!!
 
Did anyone else see the title of this thread and immediately think that it was a slow country-music love song?



Sorry for the interruption.
 
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