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Smart said a major breakthrough with Cousins occurred shortly after he replaced Westphal. He went to Cousins' house, and the two spent three hours chatting.
They did so while watching a college basketball game on television and eating gumbo prepared by a member of Cousins' family. With Cousins a native of Mobile, Ala., and Smart a native of Baton Rouge, La., that's a favorite dish for both.
"The game is on TV and I'm talking to him about what he likes and what he didn't like," Smart said. "I got a chance to know him away from the arena, the practice facility, away from all that, and now his ego is down. ... I said, 'Cous, when I see that you're not running up and down the floor (hard enough), I'm going to take you out of the game. I'll put you back in, but I got to take you out. Is that fair?' He said, 'That's fair, coach.' He gave ownership to it.
"If you're going to fight with the officials… I said, 'If I see you doing that a lot, I've got to take you out of the game. Is that fair? I'm going to get you back in'… He said, 'That's cool.' … So he knows that when I have to be on him, I'm not personally attacking him. I'm doing it because of that conversation we had at his house."
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there's a lot more to it. very much worth a read.