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Or, ya know, negative thoughts are a naturally occurring byproduct of being human? And orienting oneself toward positivity at all times may have toxic consequences of its own? And instead it might be wise to learn how to regulate all of our emotional responses to our circumstances, rather than cut ourselves off from fundamental emotional experiences?
 
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Or, ya know, negative thoughts are a naturally occurring byproduct of being human? And orienting oneself toward positivity at all times may have toxic consequences of its own? And instead it might be wise to learn how to regulate all of our emotional responses to our circumstances, rather than cut ourselves off from fundamental emotional experiences?

Yeah, completely. I was quite pleasantly surprised when I saw the movie Inside Out for the first time that the central conflict in the story came down to Joy trying to force Sadness out of the mental decision-making process and the fallout of that mistake resulting in an exploration of how Sadness can be a positive emotion when it helps us to connect empathetically with others. That was a more mature treatment of emotional intelligence than I'm accustomed to seeing in mainstream media.

It's also not helpful when we make people feel responsible for circumstances which are outside of their control and force 'positive thinking' as a panacea for all of life's complications. There are times when mental re-framing is the best solution to a problem but there are also times when anger/frustration/depression are the most rational responses to a particular situation and rather than looking for ways to mask those negative emotions what we really should be doing is addressing the root causes of them.
 
Yeah, completely. I was quite pleasantly surprised when I saw the movie Inside Out for the first time that the central conflict in the story came down to Joy trying to force Sadness out of the mental decision-making process and the fallout of that mistake resulting in an exploration of how Sadness can be a positive emotion when it helps us to connect empathetically with others. That was a more mature treatment of emotional intelligence than I'm accustomed to seeing in mainstream media.

It's also not helpful when we make people feel responsible for circumstances which are outside of their control and force 'positive thinking' as a panacea for all of life's complications. There are times when mental re-framing is the best solution to a problem but there are also times when anger/frustration/depression are the most rational responses to a particular situation and rather than looking for ways to mask those negative emotions what we really should be doing is addressing the root causes of them.

I had a buddy in college who was an international student from Spain. We were drinking together one night and talking about the differences between Spain and America, and he said some things that really struck me. He offered that Americans cannot simply sit with their sadness without thinking that something is actively wrong with them for feeling negative emotions.

He found it strange how, if he was feeling a little down, his American peers would always ask him if he was "okay". He said something to the effect of: "They don't ask me what's wrong. They just ask me if I'm okay, as if feeling sad is somehow not okay. Why shouldn't I feel sad sometimes? I'm happy to be here, of course, but I'm also very far from home. I miss my family. In this country, it's like you're not allowed to be sad!"
 
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